The Introvert’s No-Frills Guide to Socializing
The world seems made for extroverts. We’re living in a time where networking gets your foot in the door more so than skills. And if you’re not willing to make friends or connections and let your hair down, you might feel as though you’re being left behind.
As introverts, we acknowledge that it’s not a matter of choosing to be antisocial or not being able to enjoy the company of others. Rather, we prefer to keep to ourselves because we fuel our own energy. We don’t have time for games or empty conversations, and prefer to find meaning and build authenticity in our interactions.
Still, that doesn’t mean that all socializing is off limits. Here’s how to break out of your introverted comfort zone and let your hair down without draining your positive vibes:
Practice Your Talking Points
As introverts, we crave depth in our conversations, but oftentimes we feel relegated to small talk in the moment. Avoid this by coming up with some interesting talking points before you go out. For example, if you’re attending a party, one opening line you might use is asking how other people know the host.
Whatever questions you ask, listen closely to their answers because it might help you pick up on cues you can use to progress the conversation. This can take some practice, but the more you do it, the more natural it feels.
Stop Fearing Rejection
Most of us introverts wait for other people to make the first move. We fear rejection and may not be sure how to handle it, but that shouldn’t stop us from approaching others!
Don’t let past experiences discourage you from stepping outside of your comfort zone. Eventually, your comfort zone will grow and allow you to become more inclined to strike up conversations. Rejection may still happen, but building resiliency can help you bounce back quicker and enjoy the control that comes with taking action.
Choose a Comfortable Setting
Your environment has a lot to do with how you feel while in the company of others. Choose a place that inspires you and gives you plenty to talk about, especially when you might struggle to find things to talk about.
Set a Time Limit
As introverts, being in the presence of others can be draining on our brain power and emotions. It’s good to get out every now and then, but consider setting a time limit that allows you to bow out before your energy bottoms out.
Set Small Goals
When you start connecting with others, set small goals to make your connections more authentic. It’s not enough to simply strike up a conversation — introverts become energized through purpose, so understand why you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone in the first place.
For example, you might decide to make friends with people in your industry to build a professional network or find an accountability buddy for improving your fitness.
Now, Go Put Yourself Out There, Girl!
Quality will always trump quality for introverts. Prioritize authenticity in your interactions and you’ll find yourself surrounded by people who will truly add value to your life.
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